Worthy of Being Chosen

Chosen.  That is such a loaded word.  By simple definition it means being selected as the best or most appropriate.  It is a word that came up two different times for me already this morning which has caused me to do a lot of reflecting.  It first appeared during my daily devotion where I was reading about how we are each individually chosen by God for a purpose.  Then it came up again when I watched a Trades of Hope training video talking about how we have been chosen to make a difference in the world.  I have been thinking about times in my life when I was chosen for who I am.  Going back to the simple definition of the word, I immediately start to think about those times that I was chosen but didn’t feel like I deserved it because it didn’t feel like I was the “best or most appropriate.”  An example that comes to mind is from a few years ago. I was chosen as my school’s teacher of the year and then chosen a few months later as the city-wide teacher of the year out of over 40 other individuals who were the best of the best.  While that was probably one of the biggest honors I have ever been chosen for, I have never felt like I deserved it.  I have had the privilege of working with some of the most incredible teachers in the world over my career, and I always felt like many of them deserved to be chosen way more than I did.  I am certainly nothing special.  You see how my mind immediately goes to comparison?  I have to remind myself all the time not to do that.  

I think many of us feel undeserving a lot of times and often find that we are comparing ourselves to others.  I know I do.  In fact, I am not sure there is a time in my life that I was chosen for something or by someone that I didn’t have those feelings of doubt and unworthiness. Why do we do that? Why do we not feel worthy of being chosen or that someone else is better or more deserving than us?  I wish I knew the answer to that.  As much as I get on here and write about struggles and how to fix them, sometimes I need to remind myself to take my own advice.  God placed the word chosen on my heart today. I don’t know if that is because it is something I need to reflect on for myself or if it is a message one of you needs to hear, but I feel like it is probably a little bit of both.   

One way that was suggested to me years ago to help to turn the narrative around in my head is to use positive affirmations.  We have to turn the negative feelings and thoughts of unworthiness into a positive statement that needs to be repeated over and over again out loud to ourselves.  In the case of the example I used above, I need to tell myself that I was chosen as the teacher of the year because I worked hard and was passionate about my students and their needs. I was chosen because I was worthy of the honor.  By turning the negative thought into a positive, I am able to change the narrative in my head.  The more you tell yourself you are worthy, the more likely you are to believe it.  Post those affirmations around your house or your office if you have to.  Speak them out loud daily. You have to really commit to the affirmations for them to work, or the negative thoughts will leave you at a standstill.  They won’t allow you to grow, learn, and change unless you reverse them to positives.  Wouldn’t you rather tell yourself that you are worthy of being chosen rather than telling yourself you aren’t? Sadly, that is exactly what we all do, though.

Another way to change the narrative in your head is to stop comparing yourself to others. This is probably one of the hardest things for me (and likely many of you) to do. It is hard not to see someone else as more valuable or more deserving than you, but I’m here to tell you that comparison steals your joy.  It will rob you of happiness and take away the value of being the one who was chosen.  No one is you but you, and you are the only one that you should be comparing yourself to. Are you better today than you were yesterday? That is what truly matters and is the only kind of comparisons you should be making when it comes to your self-worth.  You are unique and special.  You were chosen for whatever is making you feel unworthy because of who you are.  You. Not anyone else. Whenever those thoughts of comparison start to creep in, immediately put a stop to them by repeating your affirmations. Tell yourself that Sally isn’t really better than you. She is just different.  She has her own unique strengths and those are different than your strengths. One is not better than the other, just different.

Always remember, you were and are chosen because of who you are.  You alone are worthy.  Whether it is that you are chosen by your spouse, chosen to be the mom of your children, chosen to be a leader at work, chosen to win an award, or whatever else you are chosen for, YOU ARE WORTHY.  You were selected as the “best or most appropriate” because you deserved it.  Tell yourself that every single day because it is the truth. 

Anchored,

I am ENOUGH!

If you followed me last week, you know that I had a rough week.  Things were going wrong for me right and left.  It all started with the whole Facebook and Instagram drama of removing all posts containing a link to this blog and not letting me post a link anymore. Then things just went down hill from there because I couldn’t let it go. It was affecting my view of everything else that was going on last week and causing me to see everything negatively.  It was like Satan came in full force trying to knock me off my game, and I will admit that it worked.  It got to me.  I let little things that were so dumb steal my joy.  I let it affect everything in my life last week.  I wasn’t happy. I wasn’t pleasant to be around. All of my focus was on the negative and not on the good things that happened last week, and there was a lot of good.  I have mentioned before that my mantra for 2019 is to choose joy: to choose to seek joy, see joy, and be joyous in all situations.  That went out the window last week.  I slipped back into old habits of negative self-talk in my head. I let the stupid thing with Facebook convince me that maybe I wasn’t meant to write this blog.  Maybe I got God’s message wrong.  Maybe this isn’t what I am supposed to be doing. My purpose for creating this blog was to support other women and help them become the best versions of themselves, but what do I know about that?  I’m a mess so how can anyone learn anything from me? I’m not a good writer. No one cares about what I have to say.  I’m not good enough. I am not enough. All of these things and more were running through my head.  I was letting Satan win.

It wasn’t until the end of the week that I realized what I was doing, what was happening.  I realized that I was letting the negativity slip in and run through my veins.  It was like God suddenly slapped me in the face and told me to wake up. I remembered my mantra. I remembered that I wanted to choose joy.  I realized that I needed to stop, be still, and let it all go.  I had to give it all to God and let him take control.  The whole social media thing was completely out of my control, and, in hindsight, I know it was so dumb to let that get to me and ruin my entire week.  I heard God loud and clear.  This is what he wants me to do.  People don’t care about my grammatical errors, and those that do can just move along. I am meant to do this.  Even if only one person gets something from what I have to say and it brightens their day or makes them take a good look at their life and make changes for the better, that is the reason I am doing this. Even if it’s just someone that finds their own style or an outfit that makes them feel good, I’m doing what I am supposed to do. God is in control, not me and certainly not Satan.  I have to trust him.  He tells me that I am enough. It doesn’t matter what Facebook, Instagram, or anyone else thinks. I AM ENOUGH! I AM WORTHY! I AM WHERE I AM MEANT TO BE!

If you are struggling with letting the negativity in to steal your joy, I want you to stop. I want you to be still.  I want you to let it go.  Trust God. Don’t let that negative self-talk bring you down.  You are enough. You are good enough.  Stand in front of the mirror with your feet apart, your hands on your hips, your head held high, and look yourself in the eyes and tell yourself that you are enough. I mean it.  Do it! It is called the power pose.  Do it every day if you have to until you start to believe it. You will feel empowered. Then I want you to choose joy. See joy in all situations good or bad.  I promise you it will turn your mood around. It will turn your outlook around. It will remove the negativity and fill your veins with joy. 

You know what happened last week? I had record number of views on the blog every single day last week. I had 77 new likes on my Facebook page. I had people reach out to me and tell me to keep going, to keep pushing. I had a party that did phenomenal and helped women out of poverty.  I was able to provide 5 fruit trees to a family in Africa.  I had a sweet friend connect with me and pray for me and remind me that I am doing what God wants me to do. I let stupid things overshadow all that good, but no more! I am choosing to celebrate all of that TODAY! I am choosing JOY because I am ENOUGH! Will you join me? Let me celebrate you.  Tell me a way you are choosing JOY TODAY in the comments.

Anchored and ENOUGH,