Pet Peeves

Do you have a pet peeve? I think I have a million of them.  There are so many things that drive me nuts.  Maybe it is a personality flaw, but there really are a lot of things that just send me over the edge or make me very uncomfortable.  I started thinking about pet peeves after some random post I saw on Facebook last night.  It was this whole video about things that are common pet peeves for people. There were things like loud phone talkers, people who constantly interrupt, gum smacking, loud chewers, pen or pencil tapping, slow walkers, people who talk with food in their mouths, and more.  Just about everything that they were showing was something I could say was one of my pet peeves.  Then I started thinking about other things that drive me nuts and realized that maybe I have a problem.  Why do so many things irritate me? Am I impatient, overly sensitive, too type A, too obsessive-compulsive, or what? I don’t know if it is normal or not.  I’m thinking not. 

Here are some of the things that really annoy me and that I guess you could consider pet peeves.  

4-Way Stops

There are several 4-way stops around where I live that I have to drive through all the time.  They are all at major intersections too.  I hate them.  People don’t know the rules for 4 way stops and just go whenever they feel like it even if it isn’t their turn.  They are very aggressive drivers. There are so many accidents at those intersections because of it.  Come on people! If it is a heavy traffic area where all four lanes are several cars deep all the time, why don’t we just put in a red light? It would be much safer for everyone!

Cup Holders

Yes, this is a strange but huge pet peeve that I didn’t know existed until we purchased my current car a couple of years ago.  I drink a lot of water in a day, and I prefer the large Yeti Tumblers.  I carry one with me everywhere.  My cups will not fit in the cup holders in my car, and it makes me crazy.  They would fit in my old car, which is the same car but an older version, and they fit in my husband’s little car. They just won’t fit in my car.  I gripe about it just about every time I get in the car and attempt to wedge my cup in there.  This is one pet peeve that really pushes me over the edge!  Who knew I needed to check the cup holders before purchasing the car? You better believe I will next time around. 

Headlights When Raining

The law in most states requires that you turn your headlights on in your car when it is raining. Many people do not follow this law at all.  Some think that because their car has daytime running lights that they don’t need to turn their lights on when it is raining.  This is WRONG! You still need to turn your lights on.  When you have just your daytime running lights on, there are no lights on in the back of your car.  You have to turn on the headlights so that the back lights come on.  Those are just as important, if not more important than the headlights.  When it is raining heavily, you need to be able to see the car in front of you and the back lights help with that.  Turn your lights on people!

Door to Door Salesmen

This happened just this week. Someone was walking through the neighborhood going door to door trying to sell pest control services.  I swear we get at least one of these a week…pest control, home security, driveway repair, roofing, and the list can go on and on. If I need your services, I will look you up and call you. Don’t come knocking on my door and then try to talk me out of it when I say “no thank you.” Don’t tell me my neighbor so and so is doing it as a way to convince me I should do it.  I don’t care who is using your services. If I need you, I will call you.  Don’t just show up at my house. Oh, and for goodness sakes, don’t ask me for a bottle of water because you are too hot from walking door to door all day.  Get back into you car and go back to your air-conditioned office and wait for me to call you when I need you!  

Loud Chewers

I wrote a whole post on just this not too long ago. You can check it out here.  I do think this is more a disorder than a pet peeve because more than just chewing noises bother me, but I guess it could be considered as one.  It really makes my skin crawl. 

I could keep going, but I will spare you.  These are just some of the recent things that annoy me.  What are your pet peeves? 

Anchored and Rambling,

I Need a Vacation!

Earrings-Trades of Hope, Dress-Lularoe

The month of June was so crazy that I feel like we really haven’t had our summer break yet.  Most people that I know have these grand vacations planned for at least a week (sometimes 2) this summer.  For us, it has been a trip to Disney for the past few years because we love it so much.  We, however, do not have a real vacation planned for this summer. We had originally planned to go to Europe this summer. Because we ended up buying a new house and spent money doing renovations, we decided to put it on hold. It is definitely on the agenda for next summer, though.  We are also having difficulty getting a day scheduled where all 4 of us can go and get passports for the girls. Since both parents have to be present, we can’t find a time when my husband can get off work, the girls don’t have practice, and there is an available appointment.  We have to figure out the passport thing before December, though, because my daughter has a  gymnastics meet in the Bahamas.  Who knew it would be so difficult to find a place and schedule an appointment that also works with our crazy schedules??? It should not be this difficult! 

Anyway, we decided to just do a few small little weekend trips this summer instead of one big vacation trip. Our first excursion we planned was a trip to Gettysburg and Hersey Park in Pennsylvania.  My youngest has been dying to go Hershey Park after hearing friends talk about it, and my husband is all about battlefields and history.   Unfortunately, that trip got canceled due to the passing of my grandmother.  I don’t know if we will have the time to reschedule it this summer or not.  Our next excursion is a weekend in Williamsburg, Virginia for Bush Gardens, Water Country USA, and the historic colonial tours.  Even though we have done all of that a few times before, it is something that the girls enjoy, and it is a place that we can easily get to for a long weekend.  The other little trip we want to make this summer is a trip to New York City.  Our oldest went on a trip with us there when she was really little but doesn’t remember it.  Then just both girls and I went again a couple of winters ago for a gymnastics meet and had a blast.  They loved it so much.  We did not get to go to the Statue of Liberty or 9/11 Memorial on that trip, and my youngest made me promise that I would take her back to see them.  This trip hasn’t been scheduled yet so it may or may not happen this summer, but I will fulfill my promise sometime soon.  We will just have to see if we can fit it in sometime in the coming weeks.  Other than a trip for me to Orlando in a couple of weeks for our annual Trades of Hope conference, we have no other big summer plans.  

I have to say that I am very jealous of all of my friends posting pictures of all these amazing places they are visiting, but it is what it is, I guess.  I do think family vacations are very important.  I also realize that not everyone can take an extravagant trip, which is totally ok.  Even if you just have a stay-cation and explore your town, I think that it is important to take that time to step away from the stresses of everyday life and spend quality time together as a family.  It is a time when you unplug and just enjoy each other’s company.  Making those memories together is priceless.  Whether you choose to go to Disney World, go on a cruise, head to the beach, take mini trips like us, or stay home, quality family time is so important.  You could always pitch a tent in your backyard and go “camping.”   You could make s’mores and tell tons of stories.  You could have a pajama-cation.  Take a weekend and stay in your pajamas all day watching movies, playing board games, and eating junk food. The point is that you don’t have to spend a lot of money to have a vacation.  That is not what is important.  Where you go really isn’t important either. Time together is what is the key to a great vacation.  Making the commitment to unplug from the rest of the world and just be together enjoying each other’s company is something that you and your kids will remember for years to come.  Even if it is just for two days, that time together is special.  We all need a break every now and then.  If you don’t stop and take one, you will burn out.  Your health will decline and you will be miserable and make everyone miserable around you.  Trust me, it has happened to me.  Commit to taking time for your family. If you don’t have anything planned, please consider rethinking that and make a plan.  You won’t regret it! 

Anchored,

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New Beginnings

My post is a little late going up today because I had to go to my daughter’s elementary graduation ceremony this morning.  I wasn’t expecting it to take nearly as long as it did, so I am now behind on everything! That means that I will be playing catch-up all day.  Anyway, yes, my baby is growing up.  She is now officially a middle schooler.  The slide show that they played was the one thing that got to me this morning. (No I didn’t cry because that would have embarrassed her beyond belief.) There was a picture of my daughter when she was in kindergarten next to a current picture.  Even though I sent in the pictures and knew they were coming, it still got to me seeing that little tiny kindergartner next to the young girl I see every day now.  She is still a tiny little thing, but you can certainly see how she has grown and changed over the past few years.  She doesn’t look like a baby anymore, but more importantly she is growing into a beautiful young lady. I can’t help but think about how much she and I have been through together…from her birth and first months of life while her dad was deployed, to all of her medical stuff, to navigating feelings and emotions, to now. It has been a really long and bumpy road so far.  I feel like she and I are in a much better place than we used to be, but I know that road will continue to be full of hills and valleys that we have to navigate through.   I know that things with her will never be easy, but I will tell you that she and I are both stronger females because of it all.  My friends once gave me a little wooden box with this saying on it, “You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.” I think this saying applies to both my daughter and me.  We have both had to overcome many challenges because we had no other choice. Those challenges and experiences are what fuels us both.  I am so amazed by her kind, caring heart, her quick wit, and her strength.  She is wise well beyond her years.  She absorbs everything and processes it in ways that go beyond the way many adults do.  She is growing into an incredible person despite all she has been through.

It is sad to think about the end.  So many times that is what we focus on…the end of elementary school, the end of high school, the end of the year, the end of a career, the end of a marriage.  We tend to reflect on the past and feel saddened that something is over.  We think about what we are loosing. What we should really be focusing on instead is the beginning and all that we have to gain.  When one door closes, another door opens.   While it is ok to reflect on the past and remember, it is also important to reflect on the future and what is yet to come.  Our past often helps to shape our future, but we don’t need to dwell on the past.  Instead of thinking of it as the end, think of it as the start of something new…a new chapter, a new beginning, a fresh start. While it is sad to think that I will no longer have a child in elementary school and that my baby is growing up, I am excited to see what this next chapter will bring for her. I am excited to watch her grow into her own unique self.   I am excited for new beginnings.  I welcome them.  Remember the next time you are focusing on the end to stop and think about the beginning. Turn your frown upside down and smile with confidence for what is yet to come. 

Anchored,

Brain Break

As I sit here this morning getting ready to write, I am super distracted and don’t know why.  I’m piddling around on Facebook, email, and reading news stories that pop up about totally random things.  You know how when you read one thing, another story pops up afterwards?  It is like a sinkhole that you can’t get out of.  It started with a story about someone who was rescued after being lost in the woods for 17 days.  Then it moved to the story of a child abduction and murder. Then there was some random story about a celebrity, and I just kept going with each story getting farther and farther away from any real meaningful news. I probably read through 7 or 8 dumb stores.  Did I really care about any of the stories I just read? Nope! Why did I keep reading them? I have no clue.  I guess it was just a mindless thing that was keeping me from doing the thing that I sat down to do.  Sometimes, I think, we can all get lost in something mindless like that (a game on our phone, a tv show, etc).  I guess it is kind of our brain’s way of protecting us from the stresses of everyday life. Maybe?  It gives us a chance to not really think about the important things.  We loose ourselves, if only for a brief amount of time. I wish I knew how to give my brain that break in a more constructive and intentional way.  I know that my brain goes 100 miles per hour almost 24/7.  I loose so much sleep because my brain just won’t slow down.  It refuses to shut off most of the time. Maybe the times when I catch myself suddenly doing something totally mindless are the times when my brain has just had enough and really needs a break.  I don’t know if it is scientifically possible for your brain to decided to give itself a break or not, but it does seem like that sometimes.  I mean why else would I catch myself reading a story about Lamar Odom and Khloe Kardashian? I really have no interest in either of them (nor do I even care), but I found myself reading it just now.  I actually had to physically make myself stop by closing my computer for a few minutes so that I could refocus myself.  Sometimes I wonder if maybe my kids got ADHD from me.  Maybe I have it but never knew it.  LOL! I don’t think so really, but it is times like this that make me question myself.  

I have tried to be more intentional, at least in the last year, with taking time for myself and trying to relax and let things go; but I guess maybe I am not doing as well as I thought I was with it. If my brain really has to force me to take a break by reading stupid stories about celebrities, then I am definitely failing!  Ha ha! I really do wish I knew the secret to slowing down, letting things go, and just living in the moment instead of thinking 50 steps ahead and 75 steps behind all the time.  I wish I knew how to give my brain a break on my own time and my own terms.  I would especially like to be able to do just that when I lie down in my bed at night.  I guess maybe the secret is to simply be more intentional with it.  I have to take time daily to just do something mindless, something that will give my brain a break, and something that I enjoy doing.  I think about how much I enjoy reading and think that is a great way to get lost in another world, but even that doesn’t always work.  I can’t tell you how many times I have been trying to read a book and read the same paragraph 20 times because my mind is wandering. This happens even when it is a book that I am really into! Then there are those times that I want to take a break and watch a show I am interested in, but then I have to keep rewinding it because I really haven’t stopped to give the show my full attention. Instead, I am distracted and trying to do 10 other things while I am also watching the show.  It is like I can’t physically make myself stop. I can’t let go of all of the things that aren’t getting done while I take a silly break, or I beat myself up for doing something inconsequential when there are much more important things that need to be done. I can’t relax at all. It is really sad to think about.  I know that I am not the only woman to struggle with this.  I know that every mom out there does the same things. What is even sadder is that I don’t have some magical solution to give you. I certainly haven’t figured it out. Maybe one day we will master this whole break thing, but my hopes aren’t up too high.  In the meantime, I guess my brain will have to continue to force itself to take a break by doing something stupid and totally unplanned.

Anchored and Distracted,

Step Up or Step Out

I am going to kind of be on a soapbox today.  Sorry! I was at a meeting last night for my daughter’s gymnastics team.  First of all, it was mandatory that at least one parent for every gymnast be in attendance.  I can tell you that there was probably only half of the team represented there.  Mind you, this meeting has been on the calendar for at least a month.  That is plenty of time to make arrangements so that one parent could be there.  Yes, I know that there are extenuating circumstances for some that really just couldn’t make it, but I can assure that was not the case for half of the team! That isn’t even my real issue, though.  My real issue came when we spent a good length of time determining if we were going to host a big moneymaking event.  The argument boiled down to the lack of parental volunteers to support the event with the same handful of people doing all the work while everyone reaped the benefits.  We ultimately voted to have the event because we didn’t want to take something away from the girls just because there were a few bad seeds.  Now, we have been a part of 3 different gyms throughout my daughter’s career as a gymnast.  In every single one of those gyms, we have had to sign a contract stating that we would complete a certain number of volunteer hours.  Some gyms required more and some less. Regardless, they all had some form of requirement for parent volunteers.  I know that this is the case in other competitive sports as well.  My point is that you know going into it what is expected of you.  However, so many parents think that they can get out of it or that it doesn’t apply to them. I cannot tell you how many times over the years that we have had to beg and plead with people to get enough volunteers to run an event, to get them to do what they said they would do by signing that contract.  It is always the exact same few people who put in their required hours plus many more hours to cover for those who don’t fulfill their commitment.  It is those same people that showed up for the meeting that you see doing all the work all of the time.  I have always been one of those people that does more than what is required, and I certainly don’t mind doing that.  However, I do mind it when the select few do all of the work, but the whole group gets the financial benefits of the work whether they worked or not.  It is not fair.  I know that rules and regulations require that the funds be split equally, but it just makes me angry.  We should not have to be begging and pleading to get people to do what they committed to do by signing that contract and enrolling their daughter in the program. What gives you the right to think that your time is more valuable than mine? Look, we are all busy.  We all have a lot of things going on.  We all have other kids in other sports.  I get it, but I also know that this is what comes with it.  If you sign your kid up to do a sport that requires parent volunteer hours, you better do your part.  If you can’t, then don’t sign your kid up!  It’s that simple. Step up or step on out.  You are in or you’re not.  It is one or the other.  There should not be any grey area in between.  It is what you committed to do, so you better do it. What kind of example are those parents being for their children when they see their parents skipping out on their responsibilities? What message does that send them? It teaches them that it is ok to feel and act entitled and that you don’t have to go the extra mile because things are just going to be handed to you anyway.  It teaches them that responsibilities aren’t really important. Those sure aren’t lessons I want to teach my kids. Guess what? You aren’t entitled. Your time isn’t more valuable than mine. You aren’t better than me.  We are equal and we all have to do our part. It’s plan and simple. The bottom line is this: If you have kids who are involved in competitive sports, you have to do your part.  It is part of the commitment and part of your responsibilities. Step up or step out! 

Anchored and Rambling,

Forever Friends

The Thursday after Mother’s day is one of my favorite days of the year. It is the day that the DD Annual Girls’ Weekend begins. I long for this day every single year. Eight of my best friends in the world and I come together for this weekend every year and head to the beaches of the Outer Banks. Some years it is the only time that I see them all year long, but you would never guess that we have been apart for a whole year. When we come together, it is like no other thing I can describe. We all come from very different backgrounds and many different beliefs, but somehow this friendship has stood the test of time. We make each other better. We get each other in ways that no one else does. We give each other unconditional support and love no matter what. We listen to each other, offer advice, give tough love, and laugh together all the time. You would think that a group of friends that large wouldn’t really work, but it does. This friendship began almost 12 years ago at an elementary school where we all were teachers. The group began with just 5 of us. That 5 all taught in the very back corner of the school where very few people ventured besides us. We were the back hall gang. There were three of us on one side of the hall and two on the other. I remember morning after morning standing in the hallway outside of each of our classrooms chatting as our students arrived for the day. We bonded over tough students, difficult administration, our own children, and New Kids on the Block. That hallway is where it all began. Over the years the rest just sort of melted into the group until we had our core unit of 9. Although we all started as teachers in the same elementary school, we didn’t all stay there. Some moved to new schools, some moved away (me), some quit teaching all together, and some moved to high school. No matter the distance between us, we come together this one weekend a year to just be together.

This weekend, for me, is always about restoration. It is about the restoration of my mind, body, and spirit. It is a time to just be me without the pressures of life in general. I can take off all of my hats and just be still. Those eight ladies give me the fuel I need to move forward with the coming year. They give me strength to face the difficult things in my life. It is a weekend for me to let go of all of the negative and stress in my life. It all melts away the minute I see the first person. It really is hard to describe what these ladies do for me in my life and have done for me over the years. I’ve heard it said that if your friendship lasts for 10 years, you will be friends for life. Those 8 ladies will definitely be my friends for life. I could not even begin to imagine my life without any of them. We always joke what we will be like when we are all old and grey (some of us are getting there faster than others <wink, wink>). We sometimes see a group of little old ladies together and always say that will be us one day, and I know it will be. We will be sitting on the beach while one of us complains about the sand, one is dancing like a maniac, some are involved in deep conversations, and others are just taking it all in. I think our stories would make a great novel one day. We have even joked about writing it. It would surely be a great read. I might even venture to say that it would be a best seller! LOL!

As I get ready to hit the road today, I am reminded of all of the laughter and heartbreak we have shared. The memories are vast and my heart is full. There is no other way to describe us other than my tribe. Without them, my life would not be complete. I love each of them dearly. They are my forever friends. I cannot wait to get there.

Anchored,

The Energizer Bunny

Today is one of those crazy busy days. It started right away this morning getting the girls up and ready for school. My oldest had to be at school early this morning to do some makeup work she missed while we were at the cheer competition. Of course, that threw off our normal morning routine. After dropping her off, I came back home to finish drying my hair and getting ready. Then I sat down to write this post for today. Well, my computer started acting funny yesterday and was doing it again this morning, so I decided to shut it down and reboot it. That was a mistake! It has already been like 15 minutes and it’s still rebooting. It says it has 22 more minutes left! I’m currently typing this on my phone as I anxiously wait for it to finish. I don’t have a whole lot of time to spare this morning. My youngest has an appointment with the endocrinologist at 12:00, and my oldest has an appointment with the audiologist and ENT at 2:30. I absolutely hate taking them out of school again since they just missed 3 days, but I really have no choice.  It is so hard to get these appointments with specialists even though we are established patients.  I don’t understand why the wait is so long to get appointments. I tried to call and reschedule the endocrinologist appointment, and they didn’t have any availability until the end of August.  Oh and let’s not even forget that you can’t possibly get appointments in the evenings where you don’t have to pull the kids out of school.  I just can’t imagine that there are that many kids that need an endocrinologist that they are that booked solid for months ahead. It is the same with the neurologist, gastroenterologist, and allergist. Let’s not even get into the availability at the EOE clinic. They only see patients one day a month.  It’s insane! Kids who are really sick can’t get in to see a specialist for months! It just doesn’t make sense to me.  It has been this way everywhere we have lived, and I hear my friends talking about it all the time.  There has to be a better system.  

We have to do the ENT appointment today. It cannot wait.  If you remember from a couple of weeks ago, I talked about my oldest daughter’s ear issues.  She has a very narrow ear canal that curves so her ear doesn’t drain properly on the left side and frequently gets a buildup of wax that has to be cleaned out or gets swimmer’s ear even though she hasn’t been swimming.  We went to the ENT 2 weeks ago (it took over a month to get her in), and they did a culture of the gunk that they sucked out of her ear.  It came back positive for “heavy mold.” That’s right! Her ear is full of mold! It’s so gross!  We have been doing two different drops every morning and night for the past 2 weeks. One is for the pain and inflammation and the other drop is actually for athlete’s foot, but it works to kill the fungus growing in her ear supposedly.  It is kind of weird putting drops in your kid’s ear from a bottle that says “Athlete’s Foot.”  Today we go back to see if it is clearing up (I don’t think it is) and to have her hearing checked.  She often says that her ear feels “plugged” and she can’t hear.  We hope that it is just from the wax buildup and the infection and not that her hearing has been damaged.  She is really worried about it.  She is afraid that she isn’t going to be able to hear the beeps. 

I swear it is always something. There is never a dull moment in this family, especially when it comes to medical issues.  If it is something abnormal, it is going to happen to my kids or me.  It’s just the story of our lives! We are going to keep having to see specialists, and I am going to keep getting annoyed that I can’t get a decent appointment time within a reasonable timeframe.  My kids are going to continue to have to miss school. It is like a never-ending rollercoaster. There is no end at all. It just keeps going and going and going. It’s like the Energizer Bunny for sure!  Sometimes I feel like the Energizer Bunny myself because I just keep pushing. I just keep going. I never stop.  I just wish that I had the ENERGY part of the bunny! LOL! I surely don’t have any energy. I guess something is fueling me, though. Did I mention that I am still sick, too? I’m still hacking up my lungs daily and there is so much drainage in my throat. I’m going on a month of this mess now.  At least I don’t feel bad anymore. It’s just an annoyance that won’t go away.  Oh, well, I guess it is what it is.  If anyone knows of some secret trick to getting specialist appointments sooner and in the evenings, please let me know.  I’m all ears!

Anchored,

Mommy Sick Day

I am certain that most of you did not notice that I didn’t post yesterday.  In fact, I think my grandparents, who are probably my most loyal readers, are the only ones that did. Anyway, I did not post yesterday because I had to force myself to take it easy.  I have been sick since the end of last week.  I went to the doctor on Monday and was diagnosed with a sinus infection and got an antibiotic.  I didn’t sleep well at all Monday night.  My husband even said I was moaning loudly all night long in his ear. Well, when I woke up on Tuesday morning, I was feeling even worse.  By Tuesday night I was running a fever.  Even though I felt a little better when I got up yesterday, I decided that I was going to try to give myself the much needed rest my body apparently needed.  I was going to take a sick day, but a sick day for a mom doesn’t really exist, does it? There is no such thing as a mommy sick day. I may not have written a post and may have taken one small nap; but I still had things that I had to do like get the kids up and ready for school, pack lunches, drive them around all day, and meet with an agent to turn over the keys to our rental.  Today I am feeling about the same as I did yesterday, a little better but not great.  I have had no voice for days, I am coughing like I have been a smoker my whole life (never ever smoked anything), and my head may burst open every single time I cough from the pressure.  I really hope that I am on the mend, though, because I am so over it.  I am starting to think that I will never get my voice back! 

My youngest gave me a lecture yesterday about taking care of myself.  She told me that the reason I wasn’t getting better was because I wasn’t staying in bed all day.  Of course she is right, but how in the world can I possibly spend a whole day in bed? There is too much to do: getting them to and from school, getting them to and from practices, getting them to doctor appointments, fixing lunches, figuring out dinner, writing my blog, running my other 2 businesses, making shirts for my side gig, meet with agents and cleaners to finalize things with the rental house, attend school performances, take the dog to the vet, do the laundry, do the dishes, get groceries (because my kids think we have no food in the house), continue to unpack boxes, and the list goes on and on! How can any mother really stop and spend an entire day in bed when she is sick? It is not possible.  It’s just not.  That is why so many of us get sick and get sick hard.  We don’t take care of ourselves like we should.  My kids see their doctors at least every 3 months for med checks and once a year for a checkup. My youngest sees specialists multiple times a year. As soon as one of them gets sick, I start calling the doctor.  If I asked most of the moms out there when the last time they went to the doctor was, they most likely couldn’t answer me.  We take care of everyone but ourselves.  Shouldn’t we have yearly checkups too? Shouldn’t we see our doctors on a regular basis? We shouldn’t stop seeing doctors regularly just because we hit adulthood.  Your body doesn’t stop growing and changing just because you hit the magic number of 18 years old.  Your body changes throughout your whole life.  Adults should still have yearly “well checks” just like kids do. The only time that we go see a doctor shouldn’t be when we are practically dying and are so sick that we can’t even crawl out of the bed, but so many of us do just that. I am guilty for sure.  I don’t take the time that I need to get well when I am sick.  I just keep pushing. 

I wish I knew the secret to finding the balance of taking care of myself and being a mom, wife, and entrepreneur.  I wish that I could just stay in bed all day when I am sick, but I just don’t know how that is possible to accomplish.  It is never going to change.  I know this. I will continue to run my body into the ground.  It’s what moms do.  It is a part of who we are.  I wish there was a way to change it, but I sure don’t know how. Sure, things like the dishes and laundry can wait, but, unfortunately, there are those things that can’t. It is just a part of the life of a mom.  It is sad but true.  To all you sick mommas out there chugging along the best you can, I feel you! I know that you can’t take a mommy sick day, but try to do only what is absolutely necessary.  Give your body a chance to heal as much as you can.  It is a lesson that I still need to learn because right now I am getting a big fat “F” in taking care of myself!

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Vacation Does NOT Equal Relaxation

My kids are on spring break this week.  They are not very thrilled with us because it turned into the week that we moved so we haven’t really done anything exciting according to them.  We have only been packing and unpacking the whole week.  We honestly did not intentionally plan the move during spring break.  It just sort of happened.  Many of their friends around here went away for the week, and the girls are getting jealous seeing everyone’s posts from all these cool places.  I don’t really know why they expected us to go somewhere.  We have never traveled anywhere for spring break except to our hometown in South Carolina for Easter.  I guess it has never really occurred to us to go anywhere this week before.  When I was a teacher, I longed to make it to spring break because it was a much needed break after the long winter months.  I used this week as a time to rest and recoup.  I know a lot of people think that going somewhere cool is a time to relax and chill, but vacations have never been a time of relaxation for me. Don’t get me wrong, I love to travel and go to cool places, but it just isn’t relaxing for me.  The planning that leads up to a trip, all of the packing, the scheduling of things to do while we are away, and trying to cram everything we can into that short trip are all things that are often stressful for me. I guess part of it is because I don’t do down time well.  I feel like there is something that I should be doing all the time.  I rarely take the time to just enjoy the moment.  It is always about the next thing we are going to do when we are on vacation.  I am a planner by nature, so our family vacations are often fully planned out ahead of time. I like schedules.  My husband is the same way.  We both have a hard time relaxing and he likes schedules and plans too. You can imagine that two uptight schedulers are probably not going to be able to just chill.  It’s just not in us.  I can assure you that I wish that I was able to relax.  I wish I was able to take it all in and stop and smell the roses. I just can’t.  It is something that I am working on for sure, but I’m just not there.  

Speaking of vacations, we are heading to Disney World in a couple of weeks for a cheer competition. Disney is one of our all time favorite places to go as a family.  I have always loved Disney.  One of my very favorite vacation memories was when my husband and I went to Disney back when we were newly married.  We had so much fun.  I’m not sure I can count how many times we have been to Disney over the years.  No matter how many times we have gone, every time is better than the last.  We just love it so much.  While we won’t get to do a whole lot of park hopping while we are there this time because this trip is all about cheer, I am still very much looking forward to going back. Just being there is magical.  Even though we have pretty much done it all at Disney, I still don’t relax when we are there. There is just so much to do and see. It is always go, go, go!

We are currently still debating on what we want to do for our real vacation this summer. Originally we had planned to go to Europe, but with the move and all that we have going on, we decided to postpone that trip for a year.  Now we are debating about whether to do a cruise, go back to Disney, or do something totally different.  The girls and I have never been on a cruise before. I know! How is that possible? I think maybe it is because I am a little scared to go on a cruise.  Both my youngest and I get motion sickness, and I am so afraid of being nauseous for days and being totally miserable with no way to escape. We were initially leaning towards a cruise. The debate with that was whether or not to do a Disney cruise or a regular cruise. However, I think that maybe we aren’t going to do a cruise now.  We actually haven’t even had the chance to get the girls their passports, and we haven’t booked anything.  Who knows what we will end up doing? It is all up in the air at this point. Disney is familiar and easy since we’ve done it a million times, but I think it would be nice to do something new.  I have no idea what that is.  Whatever it may be, I am sure we will a great time.  It won’t be relaxing, but it will be fun!

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A Little White Lie

I know that I told you all that I would be back to my regular posting schedule this week, but that was a lie.  I didn’t mean lie to you.  It just happened that I had too much to do. We spent all of last week finishing up painting, cleaning the mounds of dust from when they sanded the floors, and moving everything but the furniture. Then, we ended up having the movers come today to move all of the furniture.  I just didn’t have time to get a style post ready for today.  I will tell you that I am utterly exhausted and there is so much still left to do.  Tonight will be our first official night living in the new house.  After today, we will hopefully have everything that we own over there.  It may still be in boxes and a mess, but I will be so glad to lay my head down over there tonight.  The good news is that we finished all of the renovations and painting that we needed to do before we moved in.  As I have told you before, there are many more projects to do later down the road, but the main things have been finished. I may never paint again, though. I single handedly painted 3 bedrooms, and it was painful.  I had a little help painting the pantry and mudroom, thankfully.  I may never be able to fully use my hands again after all the painting and carrying heavy things.  I can’t even wear any of my rings because my hands are so swollen, and they ache badly.  I can barely make a fist because my fingers are so stiff.  I have said before that I think that I may have developed arthritis in my hands.  It is really bad, and I am not sure they will ever be the same again.  Getting older is not fun! 

I am currently sitting on the stairs as the guys are wrapping and moving all of the furniture. The house is starting to look empty, and I am reflecting on the past few weeks.  This move has been tough.  We have not had to move ourselves since we got married and moved for the very first time almost 19 years ago.  The Navy has always packed and moved us.  You would think that it wouldn’t be tough to move just a couple of miles away, but is sure has been.  Despite all of my purging ahead of time, we still have a lot of stuff.  You don’t really realize how much stuff you have until you have to carry it all yourself.  I still have a long way to go in simplifying our lives.  We really need to get rid of more.  I just have to buckle down and get it done.  It is going to take time, but it will be so worth it in the end.  

My girls are on spring break so I am looking forward to actually sleeping in tomorrow and waking up in our new house.  I won’t feel such a need of urgency now that everything will be there.  I can unpack and put things away as leisurely as I want.  Now, if you know me or have been reading a while, you know that that is probably another lie.  I won’t do it leisurely because I won’t be able to stand it. LOL! However, I won’t feel like I have to kill myself to get it all done, I hope! I have to slow down.  My body is telling me to. I have to start listening, or it is going to force me to when it lays me flat on my back. 

While I may not be back to my regular posting schedule, I am back to posting daily.  I hope to share the renovations with you on Wednesday. You will be amazed to see the kitchen.  It is like a totally different room.  It looks so good.  I also will be sharing with you the trials of trying to to paint an ombre’ wall.  Let’s just say that the end product is nothing like planed.  I look forward to getting back on track! I have missed writing.  Anyway, I will see you all back here tomorrow! 

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