I mentioned yesterday that it is a big week for me with my Trades of Hope business. It is our yearly national retreat. Unfortunately, it is all virtual this year, but that doesn’t mean that the content isn’t as great. One of the quotes that I heard from yesterday that has stuck in my mind was shared by one of our leaders. She shared a quote by Marie Forleo who said, “One of the most underrated secrets to success is to start before you are ready.” I wrote it down in my notes and spent a lot of my time yesterday pondering it because it really struck a chord with me. It goes completely against everything in me to jump in when I am not ready. I am a planner by nature. I don’t do things spur of the moment because it gives me anxiety. I think I use the excuse, “I’m not ready yet,” to put things off all the time. I think a lot of us would admit to doing the same. We tell ourselves that we can’t start on our dreams because we aren’t ready yet. We don’t have enough money. We don’t have enough time. We don’t have enough resources. We don’t have enough knowledge. The excuses pile up and prevent us from taking the next step towards reaching our goals or fulfilling our dreams. As a planner, I tell myself that I can’t go for it yet until A, B, and C are done first. That may mean that I never even get to working on the goal at all because I haven’t passed step A yet. I have this need to feel like I know everything and that everything is in place before I even think about starting something new. I am coming to realize that is the wrong way to think because it is only holding me back.
I think what Marie Forleo was trying to say was to simply go for it. Put the excuses aside and just do it. Stop letting things hold you back from going after your goals and dreams. You really never know if you are ready unless you try. Easier said than done, right? It is for me, anyway. Throwing everything that I know out the window and just going for it makes me very uncomfortable. Simply thinking about it gives me anxiety. However, I am starting to see that I am my own biggest obstacle. I am the only one holding myself back. It’s not all of the excuses that are preventing me from going for it. It’s me. I am the one coming up with the excuses. I have a need for control and the fear of things getting out of my control are stopping me from moving forward.
How do I get outside of my head and over the excuses? I think one of the important things to do is to reflect on all those excuses I am giving myself for not going for it. What is behind those excuses? Is it my insecurity? Is it fear of failure? Is it that it is really not the right goal or dream that God wants me to pursue? I think that by looking at the reasons behind the excuses, you can maybe attack those excuses head on and get past them quicker. I also think that self-talk is a good way to move forward. I know that it works for me. I’ve mentioned before the power of mantras and of speaking truth to yourself out in the open consistently. It is a way to remind myself that I am worthy, I can do it, and I’m ready. It is all about changing your mindset and turning the narrative around in your brain. Prayer is another way for me to get out of my head. Being still and listening to God’s voice and ignoring my own voice allows me to hear the truth. Ultimately, though, I simply have to push it all aside and go for it. I have to trust myself to make it work and know that God is with me each step of the way. If I fail, I can use it as a learning experience, but if I succeed….oh, the reward will be so great!
I can only think of one time in my life that I jumped into something with both feet without being ready. It was totally out of the ordinary for me and completely out of my comfort zone. It was starting this blog. I got the idea in my head and just went for it. It has turned into one of the biggest blessings in my life that I probably would have never known had I listened to all of the excuses I could have given myself. I wasn’t ready for it by a long shot. I had no experience and no clue what I was doing. I am not a writer and make grammatical and spelling errors frequently, but I have not let any of that stop me. I went for it and I am so glad that I did. I think Marie Forleo is right. I think I will hang this quote in my office to remind me that jumping in before you are ready can sometimes lead to the greatest success. All you have to do is go for it.