Has it occurred to anyone besides me the unfairness of men’s hair vs women’s in the midst of this pandemic? My husband was able to order a hair clipper (or whatever the proper term for them is) not long into the shutdown. He then had me watch YouTube videos on how to use them and eventually insisted that I cut his hair. As I mentioned before, I was a nervous wreck the first time, but I did it. It turned out alright, I guess. I have since cut his hair a second time, which was a little easier but still not something I was comfortable with. Fortunately, the worst-case scenario if I screw it up is that he can buzz his hair and move on. I have seen so many photos of men who have done just that to get through the last few months. While it may not be the most ideal hair cut to shave most of it or all of it off, this is an option that is acceptable for men.
Women on the other hand are not as simple when it comes to hair. I would never dream of having my husband cut my hair like I did for him no matter how many YouTube videos he watched! Most of us would never even imagine cutting all of our hair off or giving ourselves a buzz cut. That is just not acceptable for most women. For women with cancer, losing their hair is one of the hardest parts of chemo. That is because hair for women is a part of our identity. It is sad that society puts so much weight into hair, but it is an unfortunate part of our reality as women. Our hair and how it looks tells a lot about us. It often gives people their first real impression of who we are. No matter what your hair says about you normally, it is likely screaming right now to have something done to it. We have all be stuck in the same boat with not being able to go to a salon for months, and I know many who are looking forward to that changing soon.
Color is another difference in both men and women when it comes to hair. No one really thinks much of men going grey. That is accepted and often considered a source of attraction and maturity. On the other hand, as soon as a woman starts to go grey, she starts freaking out because grey hair is viewed as a sign of aging in women. Consequently, it is something most of us try to hide. It is certainly a double standard, but it is reality. Some women are comfortable with coloring their own hair at home, butI don’t think I could ever attempt to do it myself. I would likely screw it up and ruin my hair.
Most women that I know obsess over their hair and finding the color and style that best suits them. Not being able to get our hair done has been one of the hardest parts of the pandemic shut down for many of us, including me. I am one of those people that always has to have perfectly styled hair. It is just my nature and a part of who I am. As someone who prefers to have my hair cut every 4 weeks and colored every 8 weeks, not having anything done to my hair in over 13 weeks is making me crazy. I am way overdue for a cut, and there is more grey hair showing than I care to admit. I have shared many times before that I have extremely thick hair that grows crazy fast, which is why I prefer to not push it past 8 weeks between cuts. My hair is currently so big that it looks like a bush! Even my husband commented on how big it was the other night. It’s not frizz. It’s just really big and poofy because it is so thick. I need it thinned out even more than I need the length cut. On the days like today when I wash and dry my hair, it is massive! I have to flat iron it as much as possible. I swear it grows throughout the day too. I will flatten it in the mornings and then by the afternoon, it is massive again! I watch all these hair videos that pop up in my social media all the time, and the person doing the demonstration is always talking about ways to get more volume to your hair. I sit there in disbelief hoping someone will one day do a tutorial on how to get rid of volume. The point is, I NEED to get my hair done soon!
Our governor had started with phase 1 of reopening the state for everyone except for those of us in the northern tip of the state back on May 15. Our numbers here had not supported the reopening then. This week the governor officially announced that we could begin phase 1 here starting tomorrow. Following that announcement, I got the best call yesterday! It was from my hair stylist letting me know that they would be opening back up tomorrow with restrictions. While some may think that I shouldn’t, I went ahead and scheduled an appointment. Her first available appointment wasn’t for a couple of weeks, which is evidence that others have been scheduling them too. Yes, I know that getting my hair done is a risk, but it is one I am willing to take at this point. I have faith in the precautions that they are taking, and we will all be wearing masks. We can’t all live inside in fear forever, and we have to get back to normal at some point. For the most part, we will continue to stay home for now, but I think we will start to venture out little by little. This will be my first dip into the world again, and I cannot wait!