I have written before about this group of friends that I have that consists the craziest group of people coming from all different backgrounds and personalities. Some of us are polar opposites, but somehow, we all meshed together to form this beautiful friendship over 10 years ago. We just have this incredible bond with each other. Not only is that unusual in itself, but there are also NINE of us. I don’t know many that could say that they have a group of best friends that big. We all started out as teachers in the same elementary school all those years ago. Now four of us are no longer teaching and none of us are still at the original school where we all first met. Sadly, I am the only one that moved away. To say that being away from all of them is hard is an understatement. We all went from seeing each other every single day to sporadic get togethers for all of them and only once or twice a year for me. One thing always remains the same, though. When we are together, it is like we have never been apart. We do communicate with each other pretty regularly through a group chat on Facebook messenger, and then we have our annual trip to the beach every May. I’m not sure what our current situation means for our beach trip this year, but it will break all of our hearts if we can’t do it.
We support each other and love each other unconditionally. We share our struggles (vent sessions are a regular occurrence), our hopes and dreams, our heartaches, and our triumphs. We look out for each other, we lift each other up, and we bring out the best in each of us. We have struggled through the challenges of parenting, marriage, loss, and careers together. We’ve cried together more times than I can count, but most of all, we laugh together. Without them to lean on through some of the toughest times of my life, I don’t know how I would have made it through. Now is no exception. It is times like this when we need each other the most. As we struggle through virtual learning as parents and as teachers, as we worry about loved ones, and as we get bored to death of the isolation…this is when we have to rely on each other the most for our sanity.
I decided a little over a week ago that we needed more than just our direct messages back and forth in our group chat. I felt like we needed to “see” each other, especially now that our annual trip is hanging in the balance. I needed to see them in a fierce way. I set up a Zoom call last Wednesday so I could do just that. It is hard for us to all find a time when all nine of us are available, but I figured some was better than none. We got on the call that day and six of us joined in. I cannot tell you what a boost that gave me. We talked for over an hour, and it meant the world to me. We decided that at least for now we need to make it a point to “see” each other once a week. My husband calls it my “sanity call.” He is so right, too. They do keep me grounded and sane! I was so happy yesterday when seven of us were able to join in our second virtual call. It truly warms my heart to see their faces in real time and to hear their voices. Again, our call lasted close to 2 hours. Our biggest challenge is not being able to talk all at once. We can get pretty loud when we are all together. LOL! My hope is that by next week, all nine of us can tune in. We need each other so badly. We thrive off of each other. Seeing and talking to them makes the challenges we are facing right now so much more bearable. I truly wouldn’t trade this crazy group of ladies for anything in this world.
I encourage you all to have your own sanity call with your friends while we are stuck social distancing. Whether you do it on Facetime, Zoom, or any other platform doesn’t matter as long as you do it and make those connections. I promise you will feel better if you do. It is sure to brighten your mood. It certainly gives me the strength to get through the next week. Although, I’m thinking we might need to bump our calls up to twice a week. I may need a little extra sanity these days! <wink, wink>
Anchored and Sane (mostly),