I have seriously been staring at this screen for over an hour with my mind wandering a million different places. I am so distracted today. I guess I have a lot on my mind, and I am having trouble sticking to one topic in my brain. I am thinking about things I have to do, a friend that I need to pray for who is struggling, and so many other random things. It is like popcorn popping in my brain and every second a new thought pops in my head. I wonder if that is what it is like for both my girls with ADHD struggling to stay on one topic at a time. Sometimes on days like today, I wonder if they got it from me. I feel like this happens around this time every year, though. Life gets crazy busy and hectic during the winter months with competition season in full swing. There is just so much to keep up with. I have this constant feeling that I am forgetting about something important. I try really hard to keep everything straight in my calendar, but I still worry that I will miss something. I tell myself that it won’t be long until both girls are gone, and I will miss all this chaos. When I am in the midst of it, though, I just want it to crawl into a hole and sleep until the season is over. It’s a lot.
It is times like this when I am distracted and stressed out that my anxiety kicks in. Whenever I am stressed and have a lot going on like I do right now, I tend to take everything and elevate it to an emergency level when, in fact, it is something small and inconsequential. I get so wrapped up in whatever I am worried about, that I can’t focus on anything else. I think it has been getting so much worse as I get older. My husband tells me all the time that I am blowing things way out of proportion and that I worry about things for nothing. I know that he is right, but I don’t know how to stop my brain from automatically going to that high level of anxiety. Once it is all over, I can usually see that I was stressing for no reason, but I just can’t seem to see that when I am in the midst of it. I go into panic mode when something pops up that is out of my control or that throws a wrench into my plans. I don’t like wrenches. They cause too much chaos and make me feel like I am losing control. I like control. I thrive on control. I like to know what is coming and when, and I need it to all happen with no hiccups. I don’t handle it well when things aren’t in my control. I guess that is just part of my severely type-A personality. I wish I could take a step back and breathe. I wish that I didn’t let those little hiccups get the best of me. I try so hard to stop and refocus when I get all worked up, but I am not always successful. I let things eat away at me. It is something that I have struggled with my whole life. No matter how many books I read, how many times someone tells me it will all work out, or how many times I try to settle my thoughts, I just cannot seem to stop the anxiety from creeping in. I am thankful that my anxiety is not debilitating like it is for so many people, and it doesn’t get to the point that I can’t function. It just adds extra stress to my life that I don’t need. It probably gives me a few more grey hairs too!
Why am I telling you all of this? I am telling you this so that you know that I am not perfect. I have struggles just like everyone else. I am telling you this so that you know that you aren’t alone. I am a work in progress, and sometimes I have bad days. I am learning how to release the tension and let things go. It isn’t easy, but I know that for my long-term health, I have to find ways to reduce the stress and anxiety that I bring on myself. Prayer and meditation are things that I am trying to be more consistent about because those things tend to bring me peace. Making lists, prioritizing, and checking things off also really helps me. It allows me to see that I am making progress and makes me feel good about myself. I think it is important to take the time to figure out what works for you to keep anxiety at bay. Some people do Yoga to release stress and anxiety. Some run. Some close themselves off and take a moment to breathe and reset alone. Some even turn to friends to help relieve stress. Whatever works for you is what you have to figure out. Just know that you aren’t alone, and you aren’t crazy.