You know how I am always talking about organization and how organizing makes me happy? Well, I just want to say that I am human and sometimes I’m a hot mess. This week is one of those times when I feel like I’m in a foreign world and have no clue at all what is going on. In all honesty, I feel like I have been that way most of this summer. Maybe it is because I have done a lot of traveling this summer (planned and unplanned) and was living out of a suitcase a lot. I like routine. I like structure. It’s hard to have structure and routine when you are traveling. Now that I am back home and ready to get back to some kind of normal, I feel all discombobulated. There is so much to catch up on and things that need my attention that I just don’t know where to begin. I kind of think this is how it must feel to be my kids with their ADHD. I don’t know where to focus, and I am really struggling to focus on anything at all for any length of time. I feel overwhelmed. I am a HOT MESS for sure! Why am I telling you this when I normally give you tips and tricks to get organized? Well, I want you to know that even the most organized and well-planned people sometimes loose it. Yes, organization makes things easier and helps you to stay put together. However, sometimes even that doesn’t help. I know that I am super hard on myself on days like today when I just can’t seem to get it together. I start that negative self-talk that I have told you I do sometimes. In my head, I am asking myself questions like: “What is wrong with you? Why can’t you get it together?” When I catch myself doing that, I immediately try to turn it around and speak positive things to myself because there is absolutely nothing wrong with me. It is totally ok to not have it all together. It’s okay to feel that way sometimes. I have to constantly remind myself of that.
How do I get myself back on track and control the chaos that is going on in my head? For me, it is best to stop whatever I am doing at the moment and sit down. I kind of have to take a deep breath or two (or 10) and calm my brain. I then begin making a list of everything that I have to do or get caught up on. Sometimes even that task is overwhelming, but I force myself to do it. I write down everything including small things like removing my nail polish. That helps keep me from getting distracted later by my chipping nails. Things like that will easily cause me to loose focus when I am already feeling distracted. Then I will go through the list and prioritize it. I will even go as far as numbering the tasks to give myself some way to stay on task. From there I will begin the tasks in order. When I feel myself getting off task, I will refer to my list again and again. Prioritizing it helps me to see that although my nails may be bothering me right now, I at least know that it’s on the list and it will get done eventually. I get satisfaction from physically crossing things off. That is motivation enough for me to keep pushing through. It helps me to refocus my brain. While this method may not work for everyone, I know that it works for me. It helps to turn the Hot Mess Express into Controlled Chaos Central.