I am certain that most of you did not notice that I didn’t post yesterday. In fact, I think my grandparents, who are probably my most loyal readers, are the only ones that did. Anyway, I did not post yesterday because I had to force myself to take it easy. I have been sick since the end of last week. I went to the doctor on Monday and was diagnosed with a sinus infection and got an antibiotic. I didn’t sleep well at all Monday night. My husband even said I was moaning loudly all night long in his ear. Well, when I woke up on Tuesday morning, I was feeling even worse. By Tuesday night I was running a fever. Even though I felt a little better when I got up yesterday, I decided that I was going to try to give myself the much needed rest my body apparently needed. I was going to take a sick day, but a sick day for a mom doesn’t really exist, does it? There is no such thing as a mommy sick day. I may not have written a post and may have taken one small nap; but I still had things that I had to do like get the kids up and ready for school, pack lunches, drive them around all day, and meet with an agent to turn over the keys to our rental. Today I am feeling about the same as I did yesterday, a little better but not great. I have had no voice for days, I am coughing like I have been a smoker my whole life (never ever smoked anything), and my head may burst open every single time I cough from the pressure. I really hope that I am on the mend, though, because I am so over it. I am starting to think that I will never get my voice back!
My youngest gave me a lecture yesterday about taking care of myself. She told me that the reason I wasn’t getting better was because I wasn’t staying in bed all day. Of course she is right, but how in the world can I possibly spend a whole day in bed? There is too much to do: getting them to and from school, getting them to and from practices, getting them to doctor appointments, fixing lunches, figuring out dinner, writing my blog, running my other 2 businesses, making shirts for my side gig, meet with agents and cleaners to finalize things with the rental house, attend school performances, take the dog to the vet, do the laundry, do the dishes, get groceries (because my kids think we have no food in the house), continue to unpack boxes, and the list goes on and on! How can any mother really stop and spend an entire day in bed when she is sick? It is not possible. It’s just not. That is why so many of us get sick and get sick hard. We don’t take care of ourselves like we should. My kids see their doctors at least every 3 months for med checks and once a year for a checkup. My youngest sees specialists multiple times a year. As soon as one of them gets sick, I start calling the doctor. If I asked most of the moms out there when the last time they went to the doctor was, they most likely couldn’t answer me. We take care of everyone but ourselves. Shouldn’t we have yearly checkups too? Shouldn’t we see our doctors on a regular basis? We shouldn’t stop seeing doctors regularly just because we hit adulthood. Your body doesn’t stop growing and changing just because you hit the magic number of 18 years old. Your body changes throughout your whole life. Adults should still have yearly “well checks” just like kids do. The only time that we go see a doctor shouldn’t be when we are practically dying and are so sick that we can’t even crawl out of the bed, but so many of us do just that. I am guilty for sure. I don’t take the time that I need to get well when I am sick. I just keep pushing.
I wish I knew the secret to finding the balance of taking care of myself and being a mom, wife, and entrepreneur. I wish that I could just stay in bed all day when I am sick, but I just don’t know how that is possible to accomplish. It is never going to change. I know this. I will continue to run my body into the ground. It’s what moms do. It is a part of who we are. I wish there was a way to change it, but I sure don’t know how. Sure, things like the dishes and laundry can wait, but, unfortunately, there are those things that can’t. It is just a part of the life of a mom. It is sad but true. To all you sick mommas out there chugging along the best you can, I feel you! I know that you can’t take a mommy sick day, but try to do only what is absolutely necessary. Give your body a chance to heal as much as you can. It is a lesson that I still need to learn because right now I am getting a big fat “F” in taking care of myself!