When I started thinking about what favorite thing I wanted to write about today, I decided it was about time that I wrote about my newest obsession with Rachel Hollis and her book Girl, Wash Your Face (Amazon). I can’t even begin to describe to you how life changing this book has been for me. The way I feel about myself as a person, as a mom, as a wife has totally changed since reading this book. I know I’ve quoted it a couple of times (okay maybe more than a couple) and I’ve mentioned her book in another post, but I’m telling you, every woman in America needs to read this book. I don’t know a single person that has read it that hasn’t had some sort of emotional connection/reaction to it. Her husband, Dave Hollis, is actually in the process of writing a male version of the book. My husband doesn’t know it yet, but when it comes out, I am going to strongly encourage him to read it. Yep! I sure am!
From the day I started reading the book, I began watching Rachel’s daily Facebook live every morning and it is always so inspirational. Then I got to watch her speak virtually at our Rodan + Fields convention last month. I swear that everything that comes out of this woman’s mouth makes me want to stand up and shout “YES!” at the top of my lungs. I had so many of those moments reading the book as well. I will tell you that I do not normally read self-help books. That just wasn’t my thing until recently. I don’t know that I had ever read a self-help book before this except for devotional kinds of books. That has definitely changed now. I saw a lot of my friends posting about Girl, Wash Your Face and talking about how amazing it was, so I finally decided to get it and dive in. Wow, am I glad I did!
I read books all the time, and I typically purchase books on my iPad, but for some reason I felt the need to buy the hard copy of this book. If you read it, and you should, I would highly recommend that you get your own hardcopy. I highlighted and wrote my thoughts all over every page of this book. I even kept a journal while reading it where I wrote down things she said that I wanted to remember and then my thoughts on each chapter and how it related to me in my life. I’ve heard people say that they sat down and read the whole book in a day because they just couldn’t put it down. I, on the other hand, only allowed myself to read one chapter a day and then went and watched the Facebook live episode from where she and her husband did a book talk and talked about a chapter a day. You can go back and watch them as you read too. You can also get a free study guide to go along with the book if you go to her website and sign up for her newsletter. The reason that I only read one chapter a day is because I wanted to take the time to reflect on the topic of each chapter. I will tell you that I had a lot of revelations while reading this book. It forced me to really get to the core of who I am as a person.
So what is this book about and why should you read it? In the book Rachel writes about 20 lies that she used to believe about herself. These lies range from things like “I’m not good enough” to “I’m defined by my weight.” She goes through each one of these 20 lies and tells you what she used to believe and how her belief has changed, and then she offers some tips on how she was able to change her belief. The cover of the book says, “Stop believing the lies about who you are so you can become who you were meant to be.” That is the whole premise behind the book. Although you may think that some of the lies don’t apply to you, I promise you that there is a lesson you can gain in each one. Don’t skip over a chapter because you think it won’t apply to you. For example, one of the lies is, “I need a drink.” For those of you that don’t know me, I have never had a drink of alcohol in my entire life. I have nothing against anyone that does, and I know that I am in the minority. It is just a personal decision I made as a teen. Anyway, my first thought was that this lie doesn’t really apply to me, but I kept reading. In this chapter she talks about drinking as being her way to escape the realities of her life. As the chapter went on I began to think about what my “drink” was. I came to realize that it didn’t necessarily have to be a drink of alcohol that you used to escape your life or something that you did when you were stressed. It could be anything. What am I using to escape the hardest parts of my life? What am I using as a distraction from reality? These are the questions I was asking myself, so I started making a list in my journal. Some of the things on my list were things like shopping (remember I’ve admired to being a shop-a-holic), being totally absorbed in my phone (playing games, scrolling though Facebook or Instagram, totally tuned out from everything around me), bing-watching shows on Netflix, and many others. Then I asked myself what I was trying to escape by being addicted to those things. Thinking about it gave me a lot of insight into my way of thinking and really what I was doing. Do I really NEED all of those things? Do I need to be totally absorbed in them so much that I tune everything and everyone else around me out? Do they really make the tough and stressful parts of my life better? Do they make it go away or do they just mask it temporarily? Again, these were the questions racing through my head as I was reading. In this chapter Rachel says, “Food, water, shelter, healthy relationships…those are the things you need. Anything else you insert into that category becomes a dangerous crutch—and you don’t need a crutch if you are strong enough to walk on your own.” Am I strong enough to walk on my own? I believe that I am. Do I think it will be easy? Absolutely not, but it is a journey that I am willing to make. She says, “You’ll have to learn and grow in new areas, which can feel discouraging if you’ve already walked through hard seasons in the past. But fighting through those times is how you get tougher: it’s how you become the person you were meant to be.” Wow! She is so right. Instead of trying to cover up and escape the hard things in your life, you have to fight through them. It will only make you stronger in the end. I am telling you, every single chapter was like this for me. It made me think hard about my life, my actions, and my beliefs about myself. Some of it wasn’t a pretty sight to look at, and parts of it I’m not proud of. This book made me realize that I wasn’t living the life that I truly wanted for myself. It made me begin to change my habits and my way of thinking so that I can become a better version of myself. Reading this book gave me the courage to start this blog and this new journey in my life. Did the book magically make me a better person? No! That is going to take a lot of hard work and a lot of self-reflection, but it is a mountain that I am willing to climb because I am worth it! I want more. I was made for more.
I will say that if you continue to follow me on this journey, you will see more quotes from Rachel Hollis. She is just that good. She really speaks to my heart. She actually has a new book coming out in March called Girl, Stop Apologizing (Amazon), which you can preorder now. She has given some sneak peaks inside this book on her daily Facebook live videos, and I CANNOT WAIT to get my hands on it. I know it is going to be just as great, and I will be quoting it just as much as this book. Go out there and get a copy of Girl, Wash Your Face. If you don’t have the money to buy it, go to the library and check it out. You need to read this book. Don’t read it just to read it, though. Use it to dig deep inside yourself and reflect on who you are now and who you really desire to be. It can change your life. I will leave you with one last quote from the book…
Anchored and Wanting More,